“It’s the whole family that affected.”
’BELIEF IN FUTURE’
Guest speakers Meredith King of Westport and her mother, Carolyn Karcher, spoke eloquently, passionately and forcefully, recounting the events that transpired during a brutal attack by King’s husband, John, on Sept. 25, 2011.
King spoke about living in fear and the legal and financial changes, as well as how the violence marked her children.
“Often the simplest event will ignite a painful memory for the children,” she said. “Just recently my son shared that he worries about my death.
“I cannot overstate, domestic violence does not discriminate. Yes, it can happen to you.”
In February, John King pleaded guilty to felony first-degree strangulation to avoid an attempted murder trial and was sentenced to 10 years in state prison and five years of supervision when he gets out.
King is determined to move forward.
“On that day this year,” King said of the anniversary of the attack, “the kids and I laughed, danced, talked and sang; a sharp contrast from two years ago.
“I will think of it as an anniversary, a celebration of freedom, a belief in the future.”
’SOAKED WITH BLOOD’
“Good morning,” Karcher began her remarks. “It is a good morning. My daughter is alive.”
She then graphically described seeing King after the attack.
“No mother should see what I did. My daughter was in a chair; a broken, shattered woman. Her neck was almost completely covered with marks of strangulation. There was blood about her face, her lip was cut, and there was an enormous amount of petechiae (bleeding under the skin) around her face and scalp.
“Her shirt was soaked with blood.”
Many, Karcher said, have asked her why her daughter didn’t leave her husband.
“Unless you have lived with an abuser, you will never be satisfied with an answer.