If you are in the first category, you certainly hope you can convince the district attorney and judge, because the behavior each defendant commits can look very much the same.
But by controlling your impulses, managing your emotions and accepting that you cannot always have what you want, you will avoid behaving like a criminal and being treated like one.
Penny Clute has been an attorney since 1973. She was the Clinton County district attorney from 1989 through 2001, then Plattsburgh City Court judge until she retired in January 2012.
The National Center for Victims of Crime recommends that victims should:
▶ Trust their instincts.
▶ Take threats seriously.
▶ Contact 911 when they are in immediate danger.
▶ Let agencies and EAPs can help you develop safety plans.
▶ Tell family, friends, roommates and co-workers and seek their support.
▶ Tell security staff at their job or school. Ask them to watch out for everyone's safety.
Locally, Behavioral Health Services North has services that can help those who are victims of violence, stalking and other crimes.
Stop Domestic Violence: 563-6904. Violence Intervention Program: 563-7208.